Hello Everyone! I haven't blogged in a while and I have recently encountered some things that made me think about what things frustrate me in 0-60 seconds. lol I have also asked others what things frustrated them instantly and it's been entertaining. I thought I'd share some of my 0-60s. (These are not in any order, by the way.)
I. Vain words - OMG! Don't just say to say...let there be meaning behind your words. This and pacification go hand in hand...don't pacify me. If you disagree, say so. If you just say, "okay," it makes me feel like you can't argue your point, are afraid to make your point or are just brushing me off. We don't have to argue, I don't like arguing, but don't say something you don't mean or just blow it off. Don't say, "I love you," if you don't really mean it. Oh! Also, just saying stuff because you feel you're "supposed" to say it. I'd be the person not to return a compliment because I can't think of one and don't want to lie to you. lol Your words is the only thing you can't take back. Furthermore, people hold you to your words; your actions typically back up your words. Think before you speak.
II. Follow Through - This goes with vain words, don't say you're going to do something that you know you probably won't do. This is only 0-60 if it happens more than once because I know it's a behavior of yours and you say something knowing you're not going to do it. For example, don't say you're going to call me right back, or come right back, and take a million years to do it or don't do it at all. Because you said it, I wait or make time for you to call/come back. If you don't, you have wasted my time. This also goes with, "Hey, let's get together and do ______." I'm all pumped and ready, canceling opportunities to do it with others because I made plans to do it with someone else and then we never do it. OMG! I go to things by myself now; simply because I don't want to miss out and folks don't follow through.
III. Pot and Kettle - Do not constantly talk about something that I do that you constantly do...and then scoff about it! LOL Trust that I will hold up a mirror and tell you about yourself...simply because you tried to come at me about something that you do.
IV. Opinions/preferences - I really dislike when people state their opinion as fact. It burns my toast when someone gets up in front of someone (or a group of people) and boldly make a statement (or directive) that is based off of their opinion. Where are the facts??? And if you ask them about it, it'll boil down to, "well, I just feel..." WHAT?! I'm ok with you stating your opinion, just don't push it as if it was a fact. It boils down to a "My way" concept...that things have to be seen "my way."
V. Loud Mouth - It is not only rude but completely disrespectful to start yelling over someone to say what you want to say...WAIT YOUR TURN! SOMEONE ELSE IS SPEAKING! In a discussion, debate, argument, do not cut someone off...let them complete their statement and then respond. If you need to have pen and paper to jot notes of what you are waiting to say in response to something said, do so. Now, under certain circumstances it's ok to interject with an, "Excuse me..." I typically like to raise my hand. It lets others know that I have a thought and would like to share, it reminds me what I was going to say, and it grabs the attention of others. I've learned that listening is, sometimes, more powerful than speaking. If you just let a person talk, you'll find they'll talk themselves into circles or eventually contradict themselves helping your point. On the other hand, listening may let you know that it's not even worth opening your mouth to respond. Beyond all of that, it's just rude to speak over someone and disrespectful to start yelling over them.
Ok, I think this is it. This list is different from my list of pet peeves. lol Here are 5 pet peeves;
I. Someone chewing with their mouth open; more specifically, being able to hear the food sloshing around in someone's mouth. #disgusting!
II. Ok, this is borderline 0-60, when someone doesn't understand something and instead of thinking about it (or they refuse to take the time), they say it's stupid, dumb, lame, whatevs. What's stupid is you not taking the time to think it out. You can't say something is stupid if you didn't take time to think about it. What you don't understand isn't stupid...you just don't understand.
III. Also borderline, people making assumptions about me, or other things, and acting upon that assumption. Honey, just ask. Your assumption can make matters so much more complicated than necessary...just ask.
IV. In a group setting involving food, or when sharing chips or something, when people use their hands. I don't know where your hands have been!!! Use a napkin or shake the chips out of the bag...don't use your hands. The only time it's ok is if you do not have the napkin option (and that will be the thing that I won't eat because folks have been fingering the food) or if you can clearly pick up something without touching the other food around. Oh man! The same goes with pizza. If you are sharing a pizza with a group and you can't get your piece detached from another, use a napkin to separate them or ask someone to take the other piece and you two can detach your pieces.
V. Oh, speaking. If I speak to you, do not ignore me. If you enter a room that has people in it, you're supposed to speak. If you're in a room and someone enters and speaks, acknowledge them. It's common courtesy. I've had an instance where I entered a room, spoke, no one responded. Five minutes later, they were like, "You came in here and didn't speak." No, I spoke, you didn't acknowledge me. So, there was another instance where I entered a room and they were conversing so I didn't "interrupt," and I still got the, "You came in here and didn't speak." Well, according to your previous behavior...! Let's just stick to the code of conduct, folks.
Ok, this is a minimal list. I honestly don't know if I can come up with more. It took me a little bit to think of these. lol I would be interested in reading a 0-60 and pet peeve of yours in the comment box. Do share! :)
